The Dark Side of BDSM
February 13, 2012 § 2 Comments
When I say the “Dark Side” of BDSM, I am referring to the BDSM culture among African-Americans. The question is, does it exist? The simple as is yes. However, its not something that even the kinkiest among us discuss and if we do it is kept super hush-hush.
I can’t be the only one that likes to be tied up, choked and occasionally flogged. Unfortunately, I have difficulty finding kindred souls within my ethnicity.
So this begs the question as to why BDSM isn’t more popular or publicly acknowledged among Blacks. There are several reasons for this. First, was borne in slavery. We were demonized by slave masters and deemed sexually undesirable. Sex was considered dirty since many slaves were either raped or considered less than human. The next reason also found its origins in slavery. We were beated with whips, chains and in many different ways so to actually desire that type of activity could be considered abnormal or even shameful. The third reason is that we come from a religious community. The foundation of the Black community is the church so even fornication is considered a sin and BDSM is as well. The fourth reason is denial. We may tend to think that this is something that “only white people do”, I’m here to tell you that it certainly isn’t. The fifth reason is that most of us simply don’t understand what BDSM entails and fear what we don’t know.
If you are already a freak, BDSM is only the next step. I don’t recommend running to your nearest dungeon, but if it is something that you might be interested in, do your homework on it before you get involved.
All this being said, I was given the idea by fellow writer Nikki True to start an online community where African-Americans can meet like-minded souls and get their kink on. If you would like to be part of this community, stay tuned for updates on its launch!
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I agree. There are more African Americans who are seeking others who are in the lifestyle. I am a new submissive and i was searching for groups to connect with and everyone is so secretive and exclusive.